5 Realities All Parents Should Know About

We all know that doctors treat us for our health and wellbeing, right? But what If your doctor not only help heal your physical sickness but also help correct wrong mindsets you have about life? Wouldn't you want to have a doctor like that?

The following is a post about a life-changing conversation I had with a cardiologist in St. Lukes Hospital in Quezon City, Philippines. He was supposed to just give me a routine checkup but instead taught me, during our medical session, rock-solid realities that made an indellible mark on how I see life as a young parent.

These are 5 solid Realities All Parents need to realize and act upon if they wish to have a fulfuilling life for their children and for themselves as well. You may notice that the realities I will enumerate gravitate towards a Filipino Family context but there are some transferrable principles I wish you can still learn from. Also, I will be making this into a 3 part series for reasons of brevity.

Reality# 1 - Parental support does not end after giving your children good education. As a parent, ask yourself this question, "Why am I working?". Our usual response is, "To give my children good education". Most parents, if not all, tend to think that it is their ultimate goal in life. But in reality, parental support, whether financial or emotional, does not stop there.

As soon as your child graduates from college, it would still take weeks, months, and to some, years before they can even land into a decent paying job. You cannot just ask your children to move out of the house as soon as they graduate from school. All the more, it will be foolish if we, parents, stop working and earning the moment our children finishes school. Obviously, we still need to work. For example, my son is now 2 years old as of this writing. If he finishes college by the time he is 20 years old, I'll be 48 years old by then. It could simply mean there is no retiring for me soon. He still needs my support until he gets a stable job.

About this time, my child would stilll look up to me for support but it will be a different ballgame now that he is working. Still, it does not end there. How about if my child, after some time, falls in love and decides to marry the woman she loves. It would be nice if they have prepared financially for it but how about if they didn't? Then would it mean that the cow or the house or the dog will be sold just so you can give your child a decent wedding ceremony? How about If you don't have anything to sell? Will you borrow from a friend or a bank or from "Bumbay"? Still, after the wedding jitters and expenses have subsided, you have to prepare for the possibility of having your first grandchild in the next nine months. Its impossible for any parent to deny support to their children especially if they are asking help for their cute grandchild. I think I am hearing some "yes" and "uh-huh". It all boils down to one simple fact: Our parental support is a lifetime commitment to our child regardless of how stable or broke they turn out in the future.

And I am just talking about a single child as an example. If you see all the possible hassles you can face in the future for 1 child, how much more for those who have 2 or 3 kids or more. You may react against what I am saying that things will be ok in the future. But all your your wishful thinking will come crashing down if by the time comes that complications arises and you failed to prepare your future today. As the saying goes, "Failing to prepare is a preparation for Failure".

So If you have a mindset that the reason you are working is because you are doing it for your childrens education and future, think again. You may be setting yourself up for a dead-end. A future that may spell numerous debts and hassles if you do not prepare as early as today. You may think it is irresponsible to raise a family where kids are dependent on their parents their whole life but thinking otherwise is also foolish because we know that our children may still come back to us for help, one way or another. I am not espousing the idea that parents are to be thier children's lifetime crutch. All I am saying is that there is more to giving education to our children. It does not stop there. I am sure that there are no parent who will cast away any child in need of their support. If I was able to convince you of the reality that giving your kids good education is not an end to itself, then I have done my job.

But wait, my post also does not stop there. If you wish to know how you can prepare yourself in the future, then please watch out for Part 2 of 3 of this series called "5 Realities All Parents Should Know About".

Also if you feel that you learned from what I have discussed above or if you have an otherwise comment, feel free to comment. Thanks and I'll keep you posted.



SOURCE: http://mikesmindtoday.blogspot.com/

5 Reasons Proving that I am in Love.. with Blogging

I had a funny dream a couple of days ago. I was dreaming that I was in front of my computer typing while watching a video clip. A closer zoom to my screen reveals that I was writing to my blog and was watching a Youtube clip about how to make a hyperlink. When I woke up, I realized one thing. I am in love with blogging and I feel that we will have a great future together.

1. Aside from dreaming about blogging, there are 4 other things I do that prove I love blogging.

2. I am Learning from Professional Bloggers. If I am to be marooned in an island but I will still have the facility to blog, I will make sure I will have Yaro Starak’s "Blog Profits Blueprints" and John Cow's "Building a Business Not a Blog". These two 100% FREE e-books combined makes a great foundation for any newbie blogger like me.

3. I am researching for ways to pimp my blog. Deatabs of ICreateIdeas gave me an Arte y Pico Award. The instructions are simple. Make a link about it in your blog. But sadly, I failed to do it because I don't know how to make a hyperlink. Thanks to Youtube and I was able to get a crash-course on basic HTML scripting. So there Deatabs, even if I did not mention about the Pico Award in my blog, remember that because of you aI was forced to research about HTML's. Now If you also want to see how to make a hyperlink, see this Youtube clip:



4. I always bring a Notebook with me. I don't know with you but I usually get great ideas practically everywhere. From TV ads, to billboards, to movie lines, to books & blogs I read, and to reagular conversations I have. So when I stumble upon a great idea, a catchy line, an inspiring quote or just a funny story or joke, I just scribble them down to my trusty notebook of ideas for future review. By the way, I also use Google's Notebook for easy referenece whenever I am online.

5. I am willing to invest. They say that love is not love without giving so giving I shall. Yes, I am plannning to invest money, time and effort to setup my own niche (pronounced as neesh) blog. That entails buying a domain, tools and resources for my blog. Then I would need to commit some time making articles so I can post on a more consistent basis. Finally, I will be giving more effort to market my blog so I can get enough traffic which hopefully will make my blog profitable.

So there. I think I am in Love with Blogging but I need to stop writing now because I need to sleep already. I am hoping this time that my dream will be about me earning thousands of dollars from my blog.

So goodnight for now. See you soon. *Turns off the Light*

ZZzzz..


SOURCE: http://mikesmindtoday.blogspot.com/

What's up Mike?

Dear Mike,
Long time no see. Great to see you posting again. I am so happy that, at last, there is activity in your blog. You know that my day is not complete without reading your personal take in life. I miss your humor and how your posts seem so genuine that it contains real emotions. I hope you don’t stop what you’re doing because you really are one great writer that speaks from his heart. Millions of your fans wait in eager anticipation for your daily post about life, career, family and what not. So for Pete’s sake, get your lazy a$# off the couch and start posting! Grrr!!!
Kind Regards,
Your No.1 Fan

This was an email from an avid reader of my blog. She was so ecstatic like crazy that she threatened that I'll get a beating if I don't post so, now I am now posting again.

How I wish!

Nobody really emailed me. I just made it up. I wished that someone did and have awakened me from my blogging drought. After 1 month and 5 posts since I started blogging, I could say that the only people I knew who checks out my blog is me and my wife. Unfortunately, my wife also stopped checking it out since there is nothing fresh to read. Just the same old boring squid dish. So there goes the million dollar question, what have you done lately, Mike?

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SOURCE: http://mikesmindtoday.blogspot.com

Ba-Tsam

Canned Squid. Sautéed with garlic and onion. Next, add the squid juice and a little water plus a dash of salt and pepper. Finally when it is almost to a boil, top it off with beaten egg and stir it like there is no tomorrow. Voila! Just the way I like my dinner. Disgusting!

Haha. That’s what you expect from someone who lives alone in a foreign land who cooks whatever his hand finds from his fridge. After 11 hours of office work daily, the only thing he has in his mind is to come home and sit in his comfy chair and watch TV but he can’t. He still needs to cook his own food. After he eats, he cleans up. He rests a little while and then afterwards irons his own clothes he’ll be wearing for tomorrow’s work. Then the evil cycle repeats itself. Yeah, it sucks to be me.

Back home, I really don’t cook for myself and wash or iron my own clothes all the time. I very seldom do them. It’s usually done by my mom and most recently my wife. But now it’s different. Either I do it, or I go hungry and look like crap.

Too bad for me, I only consume and not produce that is why I never got familiar in cooking. Sure I know how to sauté, to cook rice, to boil water, to fry but I never really saw myself great as a cook. I just cook them as I see fit.

I recently discovered that Quaker® oats goes well in almost anything. Its not just breakfast for me because I’ve tried mixing it with my fried egg, or my corned beef or as breading for fried fish and I even put it in my mushroom soup. I tell you, it made all of them taste good (and healthy, I think).

Funny thing is I don’t even know the names of what I cook. See if you can tell me the names of the following I recently cooked. Please do tell me the name of each of them by the comment box below this blog.

Tulingan Fish with vinegar, ginger, garlic, coconut milk, malungay and chili.
Chicken with carrots, potatos, chili and tomato sauce.
Shrimp boiled in Sprite then sauted plus string beans, squash and coconut milk
Chicken with coconut milk and mixed with corn, peas, carrots and quail eggs.
Sardines with lettuce, a little soy sauce and lots of hot sauce.

Now there is one dish that I am sure I am doing just fine. My adobo. The only thing is, I see the beef and the dark sauce but it’s under an inch thick of oil. Now is that normal?

Man, I even imagine sometimes that my life is being taped like a reality show. My cooking looks so desperate it’s like an episode in Survivor – Riyadh. Or someone will suddenly come over and take away my dish and make some Fear Factor contestants eat them.

Honestly, as weird as they may look or sound, the dishes I cook actually taste good. At least, for me. You may want to drop by sometime and lets have dinner at my house. I’m cooking.

Hey wait, is that quaker oats inside the fridge? Let me just try mixing it with my leftover adobo and lets see what happens.

Bon Appétit for me.

Ciao.



SOURCE: http://mikesmindtoday.blogspot.com

5 Reasons to be Happy When You're Thirty

I still can't believe I am 30 years old.

I slept without qualms the night of July 2 and when I woke up the next morning, I was flooded with birthday greetings via texts, emails, friendster and multiply comments etc from friends and family. Reality check: I am now thirty years old.

Is that it? I have lived for 3 decades already? How time flies. I still remember myself watching Lotlot & Friends when I was little. Now "Trenta Anyos na ko"? Suddenly a flood of mixed emotions came all over me. I was happy one minute and sad the second. (Nahawa na ata ako ke Bondat a?)

Alright, alright, all of you thinks that I should be happy that another year has been added to my life. Yeah, I agree. But you also have to consider the other side of the coin. If the average Filipino male lives up to 60 years, then should I be excited that I already took up half of my lifetime?

Anyhow, being a thirty year old is not that bad. Ok lets see the reasons. Hmm.. Hmm.. I can't even think of one! Dang!

Ok I got it! Here are some reasons to be happy when your thirty.

1. It mellows you down. I am now more conscious of what I eat, for one. My body is now telling me I can't be stuffing myself with fatty, salty & sweet foods because it takes longer to metabolise it. Kung ano pa naman yung bawal yun ang masarap. Bawal ang pork, bawal ang beans.. (Memory Gap)

2. It gives you a chance to look back. Whatever my status in life right now, being 30 years old gives me the chance to examine the life I have lived so far. I can regret all I want or rave about what I have achieved already but the most important thing is I learned a thing or two that made me more wiser and better as a person. Ang hindi lumingon sa pinanggalinan, kung matinik ay malalim. O di ba? Go figure.

3. It gives you a heads up. Being 30 tells me I am not getting younger. It tells me, though, that its not too late to plan how will I live the next half of my life. Personally, gusto ko sana magretire from being an employee when I reach 40. Simple lang naman yung pangarap ko pag 40 na ko. yun bang maging kabarkada sina Lucio Tan, Henry Sy, John Gokongwei, atsaka yung magutol na Zobel. Yung ganun ba. O kaya magpagawa ko ng man-made na island sa Manila Bay na hugis
ng pangalan ko tapos kitang-kita mo pag nag-Google Earth ka. Yung ganun kasimpleng buhay ba?

4. You want to regroup with past friends. I don't know but, its usually during these times that humans feels a sense of re-connecting with old pals. That is why we plan reunions, we join Jashs.com forum, we search them via freindster, etc and a lot of other means. There is this unquestionable urge to know how things turned out for our friends back in our schooldays. We just need to avoid comparing because either we feel good when our life is better than others or we pity ourselves if their's seems oh, so envious. Ok lang din alamin yung yung present status ng life ng mga friends natin as long we're not stalking our ex's. Mahanap nga sa friendster yung crush ko dati.

5. You feel a need to belong in a family. Maybe its just Filipino culture but, its during this stage in life that we feel a need to belong. Single people are perhaps the most anxious to be with someone. I've heard that some even lower their standards just to make sure they catch the last train ride. I have noticed also that some people have a silent promise to themselves that they will not repeat the same mistakes their parents did when they have a family of their own. I bet my ass that there is no one in this planet who will say he never felt a need to have a partner upon reaching this age. Mahirap maging matandang binata at dalaga. If you don't believe me ask Ma'am Jarangote.

I guess this list gives me a reason to be happy that I am thirty years old now. This may not be the case for everyone and I know there are those that are still in denial but heck its fine, whatever works for you. After all, we all, are like wine. The older we get, the better we become.

Oh shoot! But I still can't believe I'm thirty.


SOURCE: http://mikesmindtoday.blogspot.com

My Wife Needs Internet

My wife really needs internet in the house.

My wife texted me earlier wanting me to call her. She said she just wanted to hear my voice. So I did. Upon hearing my voice, she started to sob. She said she misses me so much. I coudn't blame her. I felt her pain and longing for me. She felt mine too.

You might be wondering. I belong to the hundreds of thousands of OFW's working abroad who has temporarily left their loved ones to give them a better life. Quite ironic. One has to leave just to give life.

I am not even on my sixth month here in Saudi Arabia working as an engineer but I already miss my family like crazy. How much more for those who have been working here longer than I have?

But I still consider myself luckier compared to those who came before me. I came at such a time when communicating across great distances is as convenient as a click of a button.

This generation of OFW's I belong to are now able to reach out to their families via email, sms & electronic messenger services in an instant. The snail mail has been turned obsolete because of these technology but of course there are still those that prefer reading an actual letter from a loved one. Also, calling overseas has never been cheaper because of the use of cellphones with prepaid credits. But we still don't dismiss the fact that others still using landlines for such calls. Finally, talking to and seeing loved ones real-time overseas was just a dream a decade ago but not anymore. Thanks to the internet, families nowadays can do just that via chat and through their webcams.. Ok, ok.. This paragraph is way too self-explanatory and I know you get the picture.

Before I left the Philippines, we don't have an internet service. For the simple reason that we don't need it at that time. Now, its different. My son just turned 2 when I left and its at this time that he is starting to speak intelligible words. He is now very active and hyper. My wife said he always sings in his own "two-year old" way. She adds that my son loves music and cartoons. And at times, my son would call out "Daddy, Daddy" as if I was just there. He would look out the window as if waiting for me to come home from work. But I can't.. Not yet..

As adults we can express easily when we miss someone. But how does a two year old do that? I am not allowing myself to miss these moments for the world. I don't want my son to forget my face or voice. Or I, to forget his.. We all still have six months to go. My eyes are getting watery as I write this.

This month, my wife and I agreed that she'd get an internet subscription. She is making sure that all the gadgets are there so that when we both feel that we miss each other or my son is calling out for me again, all she needs is a click of a button and we'll all be together again, even if its just online.

Oh no, Its Mike!

Ladies and gentlemen, please give him a warm welcome to the world of blogging, Mike!

(Applause)

Enough said.

Yes your right. I am also joining the blogging bandwagon. Suddenly it seemed that I am the only one in this world not having a blogspot in the web so I thought, well why not have one. Nothing to lose but everything to gain, right?

So there, I got my own laptop and made sure I am connected. Thanks to Google's Blogger and presto, I now have a blogspot!

Seriously, having your own blogsite is not easy as it may sound. First, you got to have passion for what you do. Then you gotta have the heart of a listener so you can communicate well to your readers and finally you need to have excellence, yadah, yadah, yadah. Nah!

I put up this blog not for all those mushy stuff. I set this up just so I have I have an avenue to express myself. Period. Of course, I'll abide on rules of courtesy and will be against plagiarism but the rest, I'll do what I want, say what I want and blog when I want to.

With that said, I welcome all of you to my little world called Mike's Mind.

Til next blog, Ciao!